About the Pleasure & Toy Queen Patricia

Hi, I’m Patricia Peters (also known as Trisha or the Pleasure & Toy Queen), she/her, in her mid 30s, divorced, mother of 2 kids, ethical non-monogamy, currently single, originally from Germany and now living in Australia permanently… on this page you can read more about me and my story..

About me & my story

At this stage of my life, l identify as both a Switch and Alpha Female. Different situations and people bring out varied energy dynamics in me, and I find joy in exploring both roles when the right moment presents itself.

I have a deep love for Tantra and the power of harnessing sexual energy. As a Goddess and Sacred Alpha Feminine, I thrive in connecting and playing with a conscious, healthy masculine or feminine energy, building up sexual energy for full-body orgasmic bliss. Through deep breathing, meditation, sensual massages, and other tantric practices, channeling this energy – whether solo or partnered – feels truly divine and delicious. Pleasure Magic is also a favourite of mine.

As a Sensualist, I am passionate about all things related to sensuality, whether engaging all of my senses or limiting some to heighten others. Sensation play, combined with a touch of kink, brings me immense pleasure – such as using restraints, blindfolds, pinwheels, feathers, temperature play, electro play, or having my hair played with, and receiving massages on my feet, head, and body. I particularly enjoy impact play when it’s intertwined with sexual and sensual experiences, and only with individuals with whom I share a deep connection.. 

As an Experimentalist, I embrace variety and the thrill of trying new things in a safe and consensual way. This openness has led me to explore and enjoy anal play, fisting, edging, various pleasure toys and tools, squirting, role plays, teasing, and building anticipation. Through these explorations, l’ve also established a hard-limit list and always communicate my boundaries clearly.

As an Exhibitionist, I take great pleasure in showcasing my body, my pleasures, and my vibrant being for others to admire. I find joy in inspiring others, reducing shame, and promoting self-love and pleasure. l’ve enjoyed experiences such as being tied to a St. Andrew’s Cross for an impact session at a swingers’ party, tied to a pole for an electro session at a kink event, and even fisted in front of an audience, who applauded afterward and approached me with questions. I love recording myself, sharing my Female self-pleasure and toy experiences with the world through my adult fan pages (like OnlyFans and Fansly), and being worshipped through the photos & videos I post. Knowing that these moments inspire and turn others on, helping them find more pleasure in their own lives, is a huge turn-on for me.

I have a deep passion for a wide variety of pleasure tools, including 100% borosilicate glass wands for solo play, uniquely shaped and textured premium silicone dildos with suction cups, clitoral stimulation toys with air pulse technology – preferable with an oval opening, and silicone tongue toys with pump feature. I also enjoy kinky & BDSM tools, Pleasure Furniture, vibrating and rotating butt plugs, app-controlled kegel ball vibrators, electro stimulation devices, and other sensation-based tools.

When I’m truly turned on, my Primal energy takes over, and I love to indulge in the raw intensity of the moment. Whether it’s using my fingers to scratch or bite, or embracing my partner’s passion, I find this connection incredibly arousing and intimate. I crave that deep, instinctual connection that brings out the best in both of us.

Being a Libra with a Venus in Scorpio, I’m driven by a desire for balance, variety, and intensely passionate experiences. I believe in giving as much as I receive, and when I set my mind to something, I go all in with determination and purpose.

My erotic blueprint leans toward energetic play, closely followed by a love for both kinky and sensual experiences. I find energy work intertwined with sensual and kinky practices to be an incredibly fulfilling combination.

In Human Design, I’m a Generator with a 6/3 profile, which means I thrive on adventure while staying true to my values. Listening to my gut instincts brings me joy and helps me share that positive energy with others.

My dominant love language is Acts of Service – nothing warms my heart more than someone making my life a little easier in thoughtful ways.

Some of my other passions include lifting weights, practicing yoga, reading, walking, enjoying sunrises, listening to podcasts, and savouring healthy, delicious food – all the self-care rituals that make me feel good and turn me on. I’ve truly fallen in love with myself and life. I’m committed to embracing a fully conscious and present life.

As a Hedonist and Pleasure Slut, I prioritise pleasure in every aspect of my life. It’s been a challenging journey, but one that’s led me to become the best version of myself, mentally, emotionally, and physically – constantly evolving into the woman I aspire to be.

I’m also a survivor of anorexia, abuse, and domestic violence. Growing up, I experienced various forms of abuse, which led to an eating disorder at 17. My life took a pivotal turn in 2017 when I put an end to domestic violence and broke free from the cycle. That’s when my healing journey began. I’m now open about my sexuality, sensuality, and relationships, but that wasn’t always the case. After enduring abuse, I dimmed my light, shut down my pleasure, and struggled to love myself. My self-esteem was low, and I sought validation and love from others, giving up everything to please them in the hope they’d love me in return. I didn’t prioritise myself at all. Everything changed when I took responsibility for my life and choices. One brave decision led to another, and slowly, I healed, improved my self-love, and unlocked my potential for pleasure. When I separated from my kids’ father, I set health and fitness goals. I wanted to be healthier and fitter – not just for myself but for my children. My biggest goal was to become stronger, in case I ever needed to defend myself. I’d never stuck to a fitness routine before, but this time was different. I had a powerful reason why, and I kept reminding myself of it. Eventually, home workouts became part of my daily self-care routine. The benefits of healthier eating and regular exercise were undeniable – my mood lifted, I felt more energised, stronger both physically and mentally, and my confidence and self-esteem grew. I lost a little bit of weight, built muscle, and transformed my body. My libido increased, and my mindset became stronger. I knew I wanted more, so I invested in myself, studying fitness and nutrition while balancing my career in aged care management and caring for my young kids.

In 2019, I founded my business, “Healthy with Trisha,” as a Personal Trainer and Nutrition Coach, with a mission to help women transform their lives by embracing a healthier lifestyle. My primary focus was to empower women, particularly those overcoming the trauma of abuse and domestic violence, to reclaim their strength and confidence. Over the years, I’ve guided many women to achieve long-term success, from weight loss to building physical and emotional resilience. The most rewarding feedback I consistently received was, “I feel more confident in my own skin, and my self-love has grown immensely.” This realisation highlighted for me the essential role self-love plays in creating a fulfilling life, enhancing not just physical well-being but also pleasure, success and overall happiness. It was this understanding that deepened my passion for promoting self-love and pleasure.

I take great joy in inspiring others to explore themselves, embrace their desires, and step into their authentic truth. Helping others unlock their potential for self-love and pleasure has become my life’s work. In 2021, I took a bold leap by leaving my career in aged care management and nursing, moving from South Australia to Queensland, and fully committing to working for myself. I ventured into the adult industry as a content creator, and shortly thereafter, began my journey as a Pleasure Toy Reviewer and Blogger. This work has allowed me to foster a deeper connection with my own body, cultivating self-acceptance and love for parts of myself that I once struggled to embrace, such as my post pregnancy body.

Recognising the need for balance and presence in my life, I turned to Yoga, which became a transformative practice for grounding me and reconnecting with my feminine energy. As a certified Yoga Trainer (350 hours), I have learned the significance of asanas, energy work, meditation, breathwork, and journaling – practices that have enriched every aspect of my life. In particular, breath and meditation have been powerful tools for deepening pleasure and even enhancing orgasmic experiences by cultivating body awareness. This inspired me to become a certified Breath and Meditation Teacher.

As I continued my professional growth, I became a certified Somatic Sex Coach and Tantra Practitioner. In combining these skills with my expertise in fitness, yoga, and pleasure education, I rebranded my business to “SelflovePleasure.” Today, I offer a holistic approach to self-love and pleasure, working with the body, mind, and spirit. My professional roles now include Pleasure, Self-Love & Conscious Kink Educator, Tantra Practitioner, Pleasure Product Reviewer, Yoga and Fitness Teacher, and Trauma-Informed Coach. Additionally, I am an Adult Pleasure Content Creator under the name “PleasureToyQueen,” where I explore solo content with pleasure toys as part of my personal journey toward deeper self-love and pleasure. As an autosexual, I find joy in exploring and seducing my own body – experiencing pleasure through all my senses in a way that connects me more intimately with myself.

In 2024, I was honoured to receive the Australian Adult Industry Award & 2x Adult Choice Awards for my work as the Pleasure & Toy Queen, a milestone that reinforces my mission to normalise pleasure, self-pleasure, conscious kink and the use of body-safe pleasure toys & kinky tools. That year I have also completed my Professional Dominatrix training at the Dominatrix Academy. Exploring my darker Feminine has been another huge step towards stepping into my true power and most authentic self. It all lead me to finally re-brand and embrace my calling: Pleasure & Toy Queen!

Above all of that, I m guiding & mentoring aspiring professionals on becoming skilled Pleasure Toy Reviewer and other sex industry professionals to become successful Sexpreneurs to make a positive impact in this space. Providing the support that I wish I had when I started as a Pleasure Toy Reviewer and Player.

When you’re ready to bring your pleasure to the next level, I invite you to join my Pleasure & Toy School, Pleasuretoyqueen or work with me directly. I look forward to connecting with you.

With love & pleasure,

Pleasure & Toy Queen Patricia

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My Qualifications

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My Body Stats (2024)

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Podcast episodes about me

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What I love

• My kids
• Early mornings & sunrise
• Weight lifting, yoga, dancing & walking
• Reading self-development books & smuts, listening to podcasts
• Fav colours: red and black
• Fav print: leopard
• Fav flowers: Red Roses
• Fav food: strawberries, blueberries, pink lady apples, healthy fresh ingredients bowls, protein yoghurt, salads, chicken breast, salmon, eye fillet, fresh vegetables, eggs, ice cream, premium chocolate, extra crunchy PB, seeds & grains, bread, oats
• Fav drinks: Iced Long Black with a dash of Milk, Pepsi Max, Sparkling Water, Herbal Teas, Shiraz, Cream Liquor on Ice
• Fav scent: clean linen (clean smell), cotton, mandarine
• Fav materials: silk, lace, leather, cotton, mesh

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My mission & values

Empowering adults to embrace their authentic selves, I educate and inspire the exploration of body-safe pleasure toys and kinky tools. Through open conversations and shame-free guidance, I aim to normalise self-pleasure, kink and BDSM, fostering a culture of self-love and unapologetic pleasure.

As a white, cisgender, able bodied, neurotypical & femme-presenting woman I acknowledge my privilege. I am committed to creating accessible & inclusive spaces that welcome people of all genders, sexualities, abilities, cultures, backgrounds & income levels as well as cultivating spaces for black, indigenous & people of colour along with the LGBTQIA+ folks.

I have a good network within the industry & can refer to others who are specialised in the areas that I cannot provide support with. I am constantly learning & growing. If you experience financial hardship or have other struggles holding you back from working with me, please feel free to reach out to me directly to discuss.

Values Statement

At the core of my mission, I value:

• Body Autonomy: Every individual has the right to explore and understand their own body, free from judgment and shame.
• Pleasure Right & Positivity: Self-pleasure and sexual exploration are essential to a healthy, happy life and should be celebrated, not stigmatized. Everyone has the right to pleasure oneself.
• Inclusivity: All genders, orientations and identities deserve access to education, resources and support for their unique pleasure journeys.
• Shame-Free Exploration: Kink, BDSM and other sexual practices should be approached with curiosity, respect and a commitment to safety and consent.
• Self-Love & Empowerment: Cultivating a deep connection with one’s body and desires is key to unlocking true pleasure, confidence and empowerment.
• Education and Awareness: Providing accurate, comprehensive information and resources to help individuals make informed choices about their sexual health and wellbeing.
• Community Building: Fostering a supportive, non-judgmental environment where individuals can share, learn and grow together, free from fear of rejection.

Acknowledgement of Country

I would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land on which we teach and learn upon, and I pay my respects to their elders, past, present & emerging.

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